Quitting the Martial Arts
Actually, quitting the martial arts is not possible.
The martial arts help develop who we are, and they can
help shape us into the person we want to be. The lessons
and techniques you learn are yours to keep and they
will stay with you for the rest of your life. To stop
going to your club is another thing, and relatively
easy, yet can cause anxiety if not thought through properly.
A martial arts program will be very exciting in the
beginning, as all the moves and culture is usually very
“new”. This excitement will wear off and should
be replaced with a much deeper satisfaction of the knowledge
being attained. If this deeper satisfaction doesn’t
happen, then either you’re in the wrong club (see
Changing Martial Arts Studios), or the martial arts
is just not for you.
Can you remember why you started the martial arts in
the first place? This is important, as you may have
fulfilled your initial reasons, and do not have any
more for continuing. This is important for parents to
understand, as many children start a martial arts program
to help build confidence. As the child’s confidence
grows, so does their desire to try other things. Then,
with all their new activities, there becomes less and
less time for martial arts class, and eventually an
end to training altogether. In this case, the martial
arts program did its job. The student used the martial
arts as a stepping stone to other activities —
becoming a black belt was never the goal. A good instructor
“Great teachers help students to fly, and they
can fly higher when the teacher lets go.”
A great teacher will be one who is happy for you to
continue on your journey. They will understand your
desire to do something else with your time, and be proud
of your accomplishments.
Ask yourself this question, “Do I usually see
things through?” If your desire to quit is part
of an ongoing behaviour pattern, then you may want to
rethink your decision. Set a short term goal, i.e. next
belt level, one more month, etc., and achieve it. Then
re-evaluate whether or not you want to stop.
The best thing to do is take an official break from
training. If your studio is open to this, congratulations,
you’re in a wonderful place that is easy to join,
easy to quit, and easy to come back to. This way, later,
if you are left wanting more, it is easy to return.
If your studio is not open to this, then it’s in
your best interest to leave at once. Everyone deserves
And by the way, you should stop paying.
The Karate Guy