Posted on 12 January 2011.
E-Newsletter | Jan 2011 | Issue 1
New Year, New Resolve
Every year on New Year’s Eve, I sit at home enjoying some quiet in the last hours of the year. I know that this flies in the face of every tradition of this auspicious night: the parties, toasts, fancy cocktails, Auld Lang Syne and, of course, the midnight kiss. Quite honestly, by midnight my husband and I have usually been asleep for an hour. To many this seems like a sad end to a year, but for us, it offers us a time to reflect on the year passed, the events, good and bad, the achievements and the disappointments, things noteworthy to the world and things noteworthy only to us. We then turn our minds to the year ahead and what we hope for.
You’ll notice that in my heading I use the word “resolve” and not the usual “resolution”. When we use the word “resolution”, in the way that we all do at New Year’s, we mean to say that “a course of action has been determined or decided upon”. We have decided to lose weight, exercise more, get that job, spend more time with our kids, visit our parents more, spend less time on Facebook. On the other hand, to resolve is ”to form a purpose; especially, to determine after reflection”. The difference in definition is only slight in wording, but very significant in meaning when it comes to families affected by Autism.
Very early on in our lives with our son Jack, we realized we had to put away resolutions and cultivate the art of resolve. Being resolved meant setting ourselves firmly on a path, without being able to determine the direction. We were resolved in our dedication to our son`s progress, his needs and his place within our family, without knowing where his progress might take him, what he might need or how he might fit. We were resolved in our determination to parcel out our time to each of our children equally but without any notion of whether that time would come in blocks or minutes. Each year, as our son was progressing through his various therapies, as his two siblings were born, as we grew in our professional lives, we remained resolved; resolved to face each day as it came, resolved to take each event as it occurred, resolved to stand by our son as he reached each milestone, however slowly.
Raising a child with Autism requires that we let go the practise of making resolutions and instead embrace the idea that if we face the coming year with a sense of resolve, we are more likely to celebrate the successes, we are better prepared for the setbacks, and we are more assured of a balance in life that is not measured by whether we kept our “resolutions” or not. We kept our resolve, and in the topsy-turvy lives of an Autism family, this is always a success.
The children and families you read about at Aptalk, are true examples of those who have kept their resolve. In the coming year, we look forward to sharing more of our stories with you, and to you sharing yours stories with us. With Minister Broten`s recent announcement of more support for our children, we await the implementation of new programs that we are sure will bring our children great success. The plans made to introduce ABA to our communities, to support parents in their education, to develop a means of individualizing our children’s services, are all very exciting and we are pleased to be a part of the development of these new endeavours.
-Katherine Webster, Chair of Aptalk
Autism in the News
Children born to mothers who live close to freeways have twice the risk of autism studies say. .
Families of children with autism are reacting with guarded optimism to news that the Ontario government has pledged $25 million to expand services for those who have the developmental disorder. .
Nicholas was a typically developing infant and was very happy baby. At 11 months, Nicholas developed Intussusception which occurs when one portion of the bowel slides into the next, much like the pieces of a telescope. When this occurs, it creates an obstruction in the bowel, with the walls of the intestines pressing against one another. Nicholas was rushed in to surgery and thank goodness everything went really well. When Nicholas returned home… he seemed a bit different. From that point on, he started to withdraw. I had his hearing checked and finally took him to CHEO to have him assessed where he was diagnosed with PDDNOS. We worked with him and he was fully integrated in the school system with the help of an EA.
Nicholas is now in Grade 10 and enjoys making videos, movies and cartoon animations. He attends Saturday classes at the Ottawa School of Art. He also loves to take part in Musical Theatre and Drama at his school.
Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew
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A new resource for parents of children with Autism
Autism Parents Talking (APTALK) is a voluntary group of parents from across Ontario that started in 2010. APTALK provides a safe forum for parents to share your experiences, have productive dialogue about autism, and influence decision makers on how to improve the integrated system of supports and services for families of children with autism .
Let’s start talking. It helps.
Une nouvelle ressource pour les parents d’enfants autistes
Fondée en 2010, APTALK (Autism Parents Talking) est une association bénévole de parents des quatre coins de l’Ontario. APTALK offre un forum d’échanges où les parents d’enfants autistes peuvent partager leur expérience en toute sécurité, où ils peuvent s’engager dans un dialogue constructif concernant l’autisme, et où ils peuvent influencer les décisionnaires en matière d’amélioration du système intégré de soutien et de services aux familles d’enfants autistes.
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